“The thing I couldn't say at home, I could say here.”
A member on carrying a weight he couldn't name, and the night a room full of near-strangers helped him put it down.
For about three years I'd been telling everyone I was fine. My wife, my kids, my boss, myself. I was very good at fine. It's a useful word because it ends the conversation.
The first time I broke the habit was in a circle, of all places. I didn't plan to. It just came out, the real answer, somewhere in the middle of a Tuesday night.
I'd carried it so long I'd stopped noticing the weight. Saying it out loud to people who weren't going to flinch, that was the first time I felt it lift.
Marcus
Nothing dramatic happened. No breakthrough, no tears, no advice. They just heard me, and somehow that was enough to change the week. Then the month. Now I come every week, and I'm a better husband and father for it.
